Today is International Get Over It Day. Though the day may come off a bit as a lighthearted joke, there is real merit to the idea of a day specified to get over whatever burdens, heartaches, stress or other issue(s) you have been carrying around. A designated “this is the time to stop whining about your crappy job, your last breakup, your childhood issues with your mother, father, sister, brother, dog etc.” may be exactly what is needed to move forward from things that have left us feeling miserable in the past. I think that more than just letting something go, there is a message to do something to improve our current situation: Don’t like your job? Find a new one. Broken heart? Fix it. Mommy issues? Deal with them!
I remember when I first discovered this glorious day, it was last year and right on the heels of that last “don’t want to get out of bed, crying on the floor, I will never love again” relationship disaster and I was certain that my friends were sick of hearing me complain about it (S and everyone else, thank you again for listening to me while I was such a whiney broken record.) I decided I would be over it, the day would be the magic word and that would be enough. I slated this day as the day I would finally get over it. Well, that didn’t work. I don’t think I actually wanted to get over it and, as is often true, it is easier said than done. It may not be possible to get over something in one day but it is definitely possible to use this day as a catalyst to begin letting go and getting over it.
So, I am using this day to make a decision to get over it. And I have many “its” to get over. I don’t expect to immediately over every issue but this is my declaration that I am working towards being over them.
1- Complaints about my childhood. It was not perfect but it happened and that is just that. Plus, there were some pretty great parts too.
2- Loneliness. Being lonely is a choice. I like being alone and I like being with people. If I am feeling lonely I will do something about it rather than wallowing in it.
3- Relationships that didn’t work out. I am saying goodbye to all of the thoughts about what could have been and instead remembering the good times as though they were a movie I watched. I am not just talking about romantic relationships here, sometimes friendships end and letting go of those is difficult too.
4- Any dissatisfaction with my current situation. I may not be doing exactly what I want to do and I may not be able to read of the labels at the grocery store or know where to pay my phone bill but I live in a pretty incredible place and it is amazing that I am actually here.
5- The vision of my future self. You know that plan you have? The one that says you will be married by 25, working your dream job, having your first child by 28? The unrealistic expectations of everything you would be by now, everything you should have by now? Yeah? That plan. I am getting over it. Life doesn’t happen following some cookie cutter pattern or instructional booklet, you can’t designate how and when things will work out for you. Besides, what happens after it all works out? This is an entire discussion point in itself but this is definitely a big getting over it to do.
I think I have some pretty significant challenges ahead!